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Wednesday, January 18th, 2017
5:39 am
Maintaining The Flow
Life energy flows through us like a swift stream when there is nothing to obstruct it.
The essence of all being is energy. Our physical and ethereal selves depend on the unrestricted flow of life energy that is the source of wholeness and wellness. Though the channels through which this energy flows are open systems and influenced by factors outside of our control, we ultimately choose what impact these will have in our lives. It is up to us to identify and clear blockages in the energy field to ensure that flow is maintained. A healthy, grounded individual absorbs some portion of the energy emitted by other people and the environment, but this does not interrupt the continuous stream of balanced energy sustaining them. The same individual copes constructively with stress and upset, and they are not subject to the stagnation that frequently goes hand in hand with negativity. When we keep the energy in and around our bodies flowing harmoniously, we are naturally healthy, vibrant, and peaceful.  

Life energy flows through us like a swift stream when there is nothing to obstruct it, but various forces such as trauma, downbeat vibrations, and disappointments act like stones that impede the current. If we allow these to pile up, our life energy is thrown off its course or blocked entirely, causing illness, restlessness, and a lack of vigor. If, however, we take the time to clear these forces away, we rob them of the power to impact our lives. When we cultivate simple yet affirmative habits such as taking regular cleansing baths, practicing meditation and breathing exercises, smudging, and self-shielding, we protect ourselves from outside influences that might otherwise impede our energy flow. Likewise, we lessen the impact of inner influences when we clear our auras of unwanted attachments and divest ourselves of blocked emotions. 

A strong and fluid energy field is the key that unlocks the doors of self-healing and peace of mind. Your awareness of the flow of energy sustaining you empowers you to take charge of your own well-being by taking steps to unblock, correct, and enhance that flow. Fear will likely be the culprit when you cannot identify the source of stagnation--you may simply be afraid to let go of what is obstructing the flow. Letting go can be challenging, but the exuberance you will feel when the flow is restored will be a welcome and blessed reward.

By Madisyn Taylor of the Daily OM
Tuesday, January 17th, 2017
6:38 am
In Defense of Mystery
All talk of the sacred is limited by our imaginations and our language.

We are finite creatures trying to picture and talk about the infinite; an impossible task, by definition. We have no way of picturing the infinite or of adequately speaking about it. The finite mind runs out of room at a certain point; for example, “What’s the highest number that can be thought of?” The infinite can’t be conceived and God is infinite.

Knowing that, doesn’t weaken my faith: I believe deeply in the reality behind our religious language, namely, the existence of a Trinitarian God, the goodness of that God, the divinity of Christ, the need for salvation through divine sacrifice, the fact of the resurrection, and the promise of God as the only real basis for hope, among many other things.

But I’m under no illusion that our language about those realities (including the language of scripture, the creeds, and the dogmas of the church) is meant to be taken literally, like a videotape. Rather that language puts me in touch with those realities, it lays out some boundaries within which I should stay if I don’t want to stray from the truth, and it stretches my intellect and heart beyond their normal resting places; but it doesn’t give me video-taped images or rational pictures of the reality of God or of spirit. I’m well advised not to take that language too literally, even as I’m equally well advised not to ever throw it away. It’s inadequate, but it’s all we have.

Never assume that religious language is anywhere near adequate; albeit it’s useful. No theology, however good, gives you a picture of God. Good theology helps you know something that you can’t think or picture. The heart knows things that the mind cannot picture and our experience is full of a richness for which we never find adequate words.

Thank God for that. That’s the heart of faith.

By Fr. Ron Rolheiser, OMI
Monday, January 16th, 2017
5:26 am
Body Language
Tuning in to the language of our bodies can be very enlightening and increases our intuition.
So much can be revealed to us when we listen to the language of our bodies. Our bodies are always speaking, sending us messages through the way we move, the sensations that arise from within, and the gestures and expressions that we make when we are communicating with others. Tuning in to the language of our bodies can be very enlightening, especially as most communication is believed to take place nonverbally. It is also believed that the body never lies, and that if we want to know the truth about ourselves and others, then we should listen to what our bodies have to say. Anyone who has ever flirted with someone they are attracted to has probably, at one point in time or another, brushed their hands through their hair or found themselves leaning forward to get closer to that person. Someone feeling defensive will tend to cross their arms over their chest, while a person who wants to withhold something may look away when speaking. 

If you want to know how you truly feel about a person or a situation, then it is a good idea to tune in to what you are feeling inside. Excitement, nervousness, anxiety, and fear are just some of the messages that your body wants you to hear. Your body can also be a very reliable compass. Anyone who has ever been somewhere they don't want to be has probably experienced their bodies trying to move them away from that particular circumstance. And while it can be very easy to talk ourselves into and out of choices we may make with our minds, it isn't so easy to change the truth of our hearts that reside within our bodies. 

To begin tuning in to this subtle form of communication, start taking the time to notice what your body is telling you. Greet each feeling or sensation as a message carrying wisdom from your body. Tune in to what your body is telling you about the situations and people you encounter and listen to what others are communicating to you through their bodies. We already are subconsciously receptive to the language of our bodies, but when we choose to consciously pay attention, we hear and understand so much more about ourselves and the people around us.

By Madisyn Taylor of the Daily OM
Sunday, January 15th, 2017
9:52 am
Powerless
We can be positive that our drinking was negative.
We drank for happiness and became unhappy.
We drank for joy and became miserable.
We drank to be outgoing and became self-centered.
We drank for sociability and became argumentative.
We drank for sophistication and became crude and obnoxious.
We drank for friendship and made enemies.
We drank to soften sorrow and wallowed in self-pity.
We drank for sleep and awakened without rest.
We drank for strength and felt weak.
We drank for sex drive and lost our ability to perform.
We drank "medicinally" and acquired health problems.
We drank because the job called for it and lost the job.
We drank for relaxation and got the shakes.
We drank for confidence and became uncertain.
We drank for bravery and became afraid.
We drank for certainty and became doubtful.
We drank to stimulate thought and blacked out.
We drank to make conversation easier and slurred our speech.
We drank for warmth and lost our cool.
We drank for coolness and lost our warmth.
We drank to feel heavenly and felt like hell.
We drank to forget and were haunted.
We drank for freedom and became slaves.
We drank to erase problems and saw them multiply.
We drank to cope with life and invited death - or worse!
We drank for power and were powerless.
Saturday, January 14th, 2017
6:04 am
The Addiction Roller Coaster
1. Progressive Phase
a. Occasional relief drinking or using.
b. Constant relief drinking or using commences
c. Increases in alcohol/drug tolerance
d. Onset of memory blackouts
e. Increasing dependence on alcohol or drugs
f. Surreptitious drinking or using
g. Feelings of guilt

2. Crucial Phase
a. Memory blackouts increase
b. Unable to discuss problem
c. Decrease of ability to stop
d. Drinking or using when others do
e. Grandiose and aggressive behavior
f. Drinking/using bolstered with excuses
g. Efforts to control fail repeatedly
h. Persistent remorse
i. Tries geographical escapes
j. Promises and resolutions fail
k. Family and friends avoided
l. Loss of other interests
m. Unreasonable resentments
n. Work and money troubles
o. Loss of ordinary will power
p. Neglect of food
q. Decrease in alcohol/drug tolerance
r. Tremors and early morning use

3. Chronic Phase
a. Onset of lengthy intoxications
b. Physical deterioration
c. Impaired thinking
d. Moral deterioration
e. Indefinable fears
f. Drinking or using with inferiors
g. Obsession with drinking or using
h. Unable to initiate action
i. Vague spiritual desires
j. All alibis exhausted
k. Complete defeat admitted
l. Obsessive drinking or using continues in vicious circles
m. Possibility of death

4. Rehabilitation Phase
a. Honest desire for help
b. Told addiction can be arrested
c. Learns addiction is an illness
d. Meets former alcoholics/addicts, both normal and happy
e. Stops using alcohol/drugs
f. Healthy thinking begins
g. Assisted in making personal inventory
h. Physical overhaul by physician
i. Spiritual needs examined
j. Start of group therapy
k. Onset of new hope

5. Recovery Phase
a. Diminishing fears of unknown future
b. Appreciation of possibilities of a new way of life
c. Return of self–esteem
d. Regular nourishment taken
e. Desire to escape goes
f. Realistic thinking
g. Adjustment to family needs
h. Natural rest and sleep
i. New interests develop
j. Family and friends appreciate efforts
k. Rebirth of ideals
l. New circle of stable friends
m. Appreciation of real values
n. Faces facts with courage
o. Increase of emotional control
p. Confidence of employers
q. First steps towards economic stability
r. Contentment in sobriety
s. Care of personal appearance
t. Increased tolerance of others
u. Rationalizations recognized
v. Group therapy and mutual help continues
w. Enlightened and interesting way of life opens up with road ahead to higher levels than ever before
Friday, January 13th, 2017
6:07 am
Alcohol/Drug Addiction - Self Diagnosis
Ask yourself the following questions: Please substitute your behavior for the words alcohol or drugs.

Do you lose time from work due to drinking or drug use?
Is drinking or drug use making your home life unhappy?
Do you drink or use drugs because you are shy with other people?
Is drinking or drug use affecting your reputation?
Have you gotten into financial difficulties as a result of drinking or drug use?
Do you turn to lower companions and an inferior environment when drinking or using drugs?
Does your drinking or drug use make you careless of your family's welfare?
Has your ambition decreased since drinking or using drugs?
Do you crave a drink or drugs at a definite time daily?
Do you want a drink or drugs the next morning?
Does drinking or using drugs cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?
Has your efficiency decreased since drinking or using drugs?
Is drinking or using drugs jeopardizing your job or business?
Do you drink or use drugs to escape from worries or trouble?
Do you drink or use drugs alone?
Have you ever had a complete loss of memory as a result of drinking or drug use?
Has your physician ever treated you for drinking or drug use?
Do you drink or use drugs to build up your self-confidence?
Have you ever been to a hospital or institution because of drinking or drug use?

A Yes to three or more questions indicates abuse or addiction is present and corrective steps need to be taken.
Thursday, January 12th, 2017
5:26 am
Change
Change

The pursuit of truth leads in three directions and ends up in three different conditions: if we pursue the truth of God far enough, we will end in contemplation; if we pursue the truth about our neighbor far enough, we will end in compassion; if we pursue the truth about ourselves far enough, we will end in humility.

Yet, change is not a simple process.
Change is challenging. It requires a new look at old issues.
Change is exhausting. Effort is demanded to week out old habits and to plant new ones.
Change is threatening. There are those who will oppose us in our attempts to change
Change is painful. Change will mean leaving behind ideas, behaviors, even people who have been close to us for a long time.
Change is humiliating. In order to change, we will have to sacrifice comfortable old ideas.

Despite all these seemingly negative aspects, change is the way to reform to which God
points us, if we are to believe the Good News. Change has a myriad of positive qualities, which outweigh the negative.

Change stimulates us to become the individuals God has created us to be. Change is no companion of complacency.
While change requires much effort, the continued exercising of the process of change will build our endurance.
Change implies pain. As in physical exercise, we experience some pain as we stretch and reach for new goals in our spiritual lives.
While change is humiliating, we came to realize that humility is essential to the Christian life.

Change is hard. It is hard for an egg to turn into a bird; it would be infinitely harder for it
To learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad. The process will be rather long and in parts it will be very painful. But that is what we are in for - nothing less!

To live is to change, and to have changed much is to have journeyed to the foothills of perfection.

Msgr. Harold P. Darcy, June, 1997
Wednesday, January 11th, 2017
6:09 am
How To Help An Addict
Love them!

Learn the symptoms of alcoholism and other addictions – including denial, spiritual neediness, addictive rituals, etc.

Don’t judge them. They have a disease.

Learn about AA, Alanon, and other Support systems for you and about the 12 Steps.

Learn about other resources, like intherooms.com – both local and national.

Listen to the addict and help them to identify their problems. They will probably try to avoid the main issue. Don’t get lost in their explanations and excuses. Whatever they say or do, keep coming back to the problem.

Keep focused on behavior!

Don’t be a “mind reader,” e.g. “You’re drinking because…”

Don’t make a diagnosis unless you’re qualified.

Be direct without being judgmental or overly harsh. Anger won’t usually help.

Do not encourage “cutting down” or “controlling” drinking or other behavior. It only gives the temporary illusion of control and implies approval of unhealthy behavior.

Get help for yourself! See a counselor or attend Alanon.

Don’t get discouraged. It may take a long time to help the addict accept help.

I repeat, Love them!
Tuesday, January 10th, 2017
5:35 am
Addiction Is My Sheperd
Addiction is my shepherd:
I shall always want.
It makes me lie down in the gutters.
It leads me beside troubled waters.
It destroys my soul.
It leads me in the path of wickedness
For its own sake.
Yea, I shall walk through the valley of poverty
And I will fear all evil,
For you, Addiction, are with me.
Denial and Manipulation try to comfort me.
You strip my table of nutrition (You strip my body of Health)
In the presence of my loved ones.
You rob my head of reason.
My cup of sorrow and shame runs over.
Surely addiction shall stalk me
All the days of my life,
And I will dwell in the House of the Damned forever.
Monday, January 9th, 2017
4:21 am
Prayer Request
I'm having surgery this morning. Please remember me in your prayers. Thanks, Bob
4:18 am
Prayers
The Alcoholic’s Prayer
Step Zero Prayer
Mighty Alcohol, make me an instrument of your destruction
Where there is opportunity, let me bring failure
Where there is peace, let me bring chaos
Where there is security, let me bring fear
Where there is unity, let me bring disharmony
Where there is health, let me bring sickness
Where there is love, let me bring abandonment
Where there is life let me bring death.
Mighty Alcohol,
May I be understood, but not understand
May I be loved, but not loving
May I be accepted, but not accept
For it is in blaming that we avoid responsibility
It is by controlling that we ensure loss of freedom
It is in lying that we escape reality
And it is in your embrace that we become spiritually dead.

Adapted by Bob Martin
Recovery Prayer
Lord, make me an instrument of your Serenity
Where there is addiction, let me bring Recovery
Where there is loneliness, let me bring Fellowship
Where there is abandonment, let me bring Welcome
Where there is shame, let me bring Healing
Where there is hatred, let me bring Love
Where there is hurt, let me bring Forgiveness
Where there is prejudice, let me bring Acceptance
Where there is denial, let me bring Honesty
Where there is fear, let me bring Courage
Where there is doubt, let me bring Faith
Where there is despair, let me bring Hope
Where there is darkness, let me bring Light
Where there is sadness, let me bring Joy

Lord, grant that I may seek
Not so much to be comforted, but to bring Comfort
Not so much to be understood, as to bring Understanding
Not so much to be loved, as to bring Love
For it is in Giving that we receive
For it is by Pardoning, that we are pardoned
For it is by Living the 12 Steps, that we are granted a Daily Reprieve
And it is by Dying to our old life, that we Awaken to a New Life of Sobriety

Adapted by Bob Martin
Sunday, January 8th, 2017
5:51 am
Forgiveness
“Forgiveness is a heartache and difficult to achieve because strangely, it not only refuses to eliminate the original wound but actually draws us closer to its source. To approach forgiveness is to close in on the nature of the hurt itself, the only remedy being, as we approach its raw center, to reimagine our relation to it.”

― David Whyte, Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words
Saturday, January 7th, 2017
5:37 am
Vulnerability
Vulnerability is not a weakness, a passing indisposition, or something we can arrange to do without, vulnerability is not a choice, vulnerability is the underlying, ever present and abiding undercurrent of our natural state. To run from vulnerability is to run from the essence of our nature, the attempt to be invulnerable is the vain attempt to become something we are not and most especially, to close off our understanding of the grief of others. More seriously, in refusing our vulnerability we refuse the help needed at every turn of our existence and immobilize the essential, tidal and conversational foundations of our identity.

To have a temporary, isolated sense of power over all events and circumstances, is a lovely illusionary privilege and perhaps the prime and most beautifully constructed conceit of being human and especially of being youthfully human, but it is a privilege that must be surrendered with that same youth, with ill health, with accident, with the loss of loved ones who do not share our untouchable powers; powers eventually and most emphatically given up, as we approach our last breath.

The only choice we have as we mature is how we inhabit our vulnerability, how we become larger and more courageous and more compassionate through our intimacy with disappearance, our choice is to inhabit vulnerability as generous citizens of loss, robustly and fully, or conversely, as misers and complainers, reluctant and fearful, always at the gates of existence, but never bravely and completely attempting to enter, never wanting to risk ourselves, never walking fully through the door.

by David Whyte
Friday, January 6th, 2017
6:18 am
Life Lessons
To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me
From: The Inspiration List
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Change the way you think.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. Release your children when they become adults, it's their life now
9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay cheque.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye.
16. Take a deep breath It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Just because you believe you are right, doesn't mean you are. Keep an open mind.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time... time.
31. However good or however bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. Your job is to love your children, not choose who they should love.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come... (Can’t wait to find out what! )
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield..
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
Thursday, January 5th, 2017
7:35 am
Please Hear What I'm Not Saying
Please hear what I’m not saying. Don't be fooled by me. For I wear a mask. I wear a thousand masks. Masks that I'm afraid to take off, and none of them are mine. Pretending is an art that's second nature with me, but don't be fooled, for God's sake, don't be fooled.

I give you the impression that I'm secure, that all is sunny, and coolness my game; that the water's calm, and I'm in command, and that I need no one. But don't believe me...Please don't! My surface may seem smooth, but my surface is my mask...my ever varying and ever-concealing mask. Beneath swells the real me, in confusion, in fear and in aloneness. But I hide this, I don't want anybody to know it.

I panic at the thought of my weakness, and fear being exposed. That's why I frantically create a mask to hide behind...a nonchalant, sophisticated facade...to help me pretend, to shield me from your glance...a glance that "knows." But, such a glance is precisely my salvation...my only salvation...and I know it! But, provided that glance is followed by acceptance, and then followed by love. It's the only thing that will assure me of what I can't assure myself...that I'm really "worth" something.

But, I don't tell you this. I don't dare. I'm afraid to. I'm afraid you will think less of me, that you'll laugh, and your laugh would kill me. I'm afraid that deep down I'm "nothing," that I'm just no good, and that you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate, pretending game, with a facade of assurance on the outside, and a trembling child within. And, so begins the parade of masks, the glittering, but empty parade of masks, and my life becomes a front. I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk. I tell you everything that's really nothing, and nothing of that which is everything...of what's crying within me.

So, when I'm going through my routine, do not be fooled by what I'm saying. Please listen carefully, and try to hear what I'm "not" saying...what I'd like to be able to say, what, for survival, I need to say, but I can't say. I dislike hiding...honestly, I do. I dislike the superficial game I'm playing...the superficial, phony game. I'd really like to be genuine and spontaneous, and "me." Help me!

You've got to hold out your hand...even when that's the last thing I seem to want or need. Only you can wipe away from my eyes the blank stare of the breathing dead. Each time you're kind and gentle and encouraging. Each time you try to understand, because you really care, my heart begins to grow wings...very small wings, very feeble wings...but wings.

With your sensitivity, sympathy, and your power of understanding, you can breathe life into me. I want you to know that. I want you to know how important you are to me. How you can be a creator of the person that is me, if you choose to...please choose to.

You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble. You alone can remove my mask. You alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic and uncertainty...from my lonely prison. So do not pass me by. Please don't pass me by!

It will not be easy for you. A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls. The nearer you approach to me...the blinder I may strike back! It's irrational, but despite what the books say about man...I am irrational. I fight against the very thing that I cry out for.

But, I am told that love is stronger than strong walls, and in this lies my hope...my only hope. Please try to beat down those walls with firm hands, but with gentle hands...for a child is very sensitive, and I am a child. Who am I, you may wonder? I am someone you know very well.

For I am every man you meet...
And I am every woman you meet...
And I am you also!

Written by: Charles C. Finn
September 1966
Wednesday, January 4th, 2017
2:41 am
Finding Solid Ground
John’s father had built their home when John was a boy. It was perched on the side of a mountain overlooking the sea and John wanted to stay there as long as possible. But over the years, the ocean had worn away the shore and compromised the integrity of the foundation. No amount of repair could hide the fact that John would have to live elsewhere. He faced a heartbreaking but essential turning point in his life. He had to find more solid ground. 
 
In the geography of a life, there are times when what once was solid starts to shift, because life as we know it has evolved and changed in some deep way that no longer supports us. There are times when the integrity of our foundation is compromised and we have to find new footing. 
 
A shift of foundation can appear in many ways: the banks of a river can crumble as the river gets stronger, the shore of a marriage can be carved out by the tide of time, the trunk of self-identity can be wormed of its strength, and our secret ambition can open like a dandelion that in time will drop its petals and turn to mulch. It doesn’t mean that the banks of the river, or the shore of the marriage, or the ground of identity, or the goal we worked toward, was faulty or false. Each simply evolved, as rivers and mountains and dunes change over time. 
 
During this last year, I had to accept that the ground of a long-term friendship was no longer solid. Like John who didn’t want to leave his father’s house, I kept trying repair after repair, not wanting to accept that the integrity of our foundation had been compromised. Too many storms and not enough trust. It was heartbreaking but I had to find more solid ground. The house of our friendship was magnificent when she and I had built it. I still remember the view. But we’re constantly asked to stay current with what is solid and authentic, to stay close to what will sustain us and help us live. Listening for when relationships and dreams begin to shift—for when they’re no longer foundational—requires an honesty that can take years to understand and accept.
 
A Question to Walk With: Describe something dear you had to let go of—a home, a friendship, a way of thinking or being—because it had ceased to be life-giving. How did you become aware of the change? How did you accept the truth of the situation? How did you let this dear thing go? 

Mark Nepo
Tuesday, January 3rd, 2017
3:26 am
New Year's Resolutions You Can Keep
Are you sick of making the same resolutions year after year that you never keep? Why not promise to do something you can ACTUALLY accomplish?

Here are some resolutions that you can use as a starting point:

~ Gain weight. At least 30 pounds.
~ Stop exercising. Waste of time.
~ Read less. Makes you think.
~ Watch more TV. I've been missing some good stuff.
~ Procrastinate more. Starting tomorrow.
~ Spend more time at work, surfing the web.
~ Take a vacation to someplace important, like to see the world's largest ball of twine.
~ Don't jump off a cliff just because everyone else did.
~ Stop bringing lunch from home--eat out more.
~ Don't have eight children at once.
~ Get in a whole NEW rut!
~ Start being superstitious.
~ Personal goal: Don't bring back disco.
~ Speak in a monotone voice and only use monosyllabic words.
~ Only wear jeans that are 2 sizes too small and use a chain or rope for a belt.
~ Spend my summer vacation in cyberspace.
~ Create loose ends.
~ Get more toys.
~ Get further in debt.
~ Don't believe politicians.
~ Break at least one traffic law.
~ Don't drive a motorized vehicle across thin ice.
~ Don't swim with piranhas or sharks.
~ Spread out priorities beyond the ability to keep track of them.
~ Wait for opportunity to knock.
~ Focus on the faults of others.
~ Mope about faults.
~ Never make New Year's resolutions again.
Monday, January 2nd, 2017
5:10 am
Acceptance
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

For me, serenity began when I learned to distinguish between those things that I could change and those I could not. When I admitted that there were people, places, things, and situations over which I was totally powerless, those things began to lose their power over me. I learned that everyone has the right to make their own mistakes, and learn from them, without my interference, judgment, or assistance!

The key to my serenity is acceptance. But "acceptance" does not mean that I have to like it, condone it, or even ignore it. What it does mean is I am powerless to do anything about it... and I have to accept that fact.

Nor does it mean that I have to accept "unacceptable behavior." Today I have choices. I no longer have to accept abuse in any form. I can choose to walk away, even if it means stepping out into the unknown. I no longer have to fear "change" or the unknown. I can merely accept it as part of the journey.

I spent years trying to change things in my life over which I was powerless, but did not know it. I threatened, scolded, manipulated, coerced, pleaded, begged, pouted, bribed and generally tried everything I could to make the situation better -- only watch as things always got progressively worse.
I spent so much time trying to change the things I could not change, it never once occurred to me to simply accept them as they were.

Now when things in my life are not going the way I planned them, or downright bad things happen, I can remind myself that whatever is going on is not happening by accident. There's a reason for it and it is not always meant for me to know what that reason is.

That change in attitude has been the key to happiness for me. I know I am not the only who has found that serenity.

Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous) (p 449, 3rd Edition; p 417, 4th Edition)
Sunday, January 1st, 2017
7:48 am
Stories for A Happy New Year
"SIX LITTLE STORIES" - well worth the 30 seconds to read!

{1} Once all villagers decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella. That's FAITH.


{2} When you throw babies in the air, they laugh because they know you will catch them. That's TRUST.



{3} Every night we go to bed without any assurance of being alive the next morning, but still we set the alarms to wake up. That's HOPE.


(4} We plan big things for tomorrow in spite of zero knowledge of the future. That's CONFIDENCE.


{5} We see the world suffering, but still we get married and have children. That's LOVE.


{6} On an old man's shirt was written a sentence 'I am not 82 years old; I am sweet 16 with 66 years of experience.' That's ATTITUDE.

Have a happy day and live your life like the six stories. When I was a child, I thought nap time was punishment. Now it's like a mini-vacation.

"GOOD FRIENDS ARE THE RARE JEWELS OF LIFE.....DIFFICULT TO FIND AND IMPOSSIBLE TO REPLACE!"

Happy 2017
Saturday, December 31st, 2016
7:27 am
A Way To A Happy New Year
To leave the old with a burst of song
To recall the right and forgive the wrong;
To forget the thing that binds you fast
To the vain regrets of the year that's past;

To have the strength to let go your hold
Of the not worthwhile of the days grown old,
To dare to go forth with a purpose true,
To the unknown task of the year that's new;

To help your brother along the road
To do his work and lift his load;
To add your gift to the world's good cheer,
Is to have and to give a Happy New Year.

Robert Brewster Beattie
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